Amazing Abeish Advice About Wanting To Be Liked

Hey everyone :-)

This is not a direct Abraham-Hicks quote, but a reply on the Abe forum (from "Lucy13") regarding wanting to be liked. I thought this reply was so good, I printed it out and have written it in a few places. I now have have in written through 4 A3 pages on my bedroom wall so I'll never forget it! I hope this helps someone!

I first read this a few months ago and think that I am more and more feeling like this instinctively... I am being ME more and more and caring less about what they think! Like the other day when I was with a group of people I don't know too well, a friend I hadn't seen in a while who is into spirituality sat down beside us and asked me am I still in the Buddhist group. The people sitting beside me was like "Oh you're in a Buddhist group, I'm not into that kind of thing, but that's cool!!". It was mad saying it in front of random people since I usually wouldn't mention it but someone said "Oh so that's why you're always lively and nice to everyone!" so being myself is a GOOD thing!

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"When you look on others (e.g. parents, lovers, friends, random people) for your validation and self-worth, you're always depending on these elements outside of you to determine how you feel about you.

When you CUT OUT those elements, then you decide for yourself who you are NO MATTER WHAT THE OTHERS THINK (i.e. not giving a hoot what they think) you have your power back.

AND WHEN THIS HAPPENS, THE OTHERS SIMPLY FOLLOW. And of course their validation is welcomed and wanted and desired but you are no longer depending on them.

You get your validation from yourself from... YOURSELF (NOT GIVING A DAMN WHAT THEY SAY OR DO) AND THEN YOU GET IT FROM OUTSIDE SOURCES, not the other way around."

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NOTE, in our case, do listen to what your therapist thinks! And I do feel that we can't please everyone all the time, but all the more reason not to care what they think! And this is related with "wanting to be liked", not "reaching out for help".

xxxxx
Carol